Shoving a heap of “it’s none of my business” smoothie into my mouth has been a major preventive medicine to choke back personal comments on people’s social media pages but earlier this week, that failed me! My eyes detected different posts with the same hashtag at almost the same time. This caused an extreme heart emotional attack. To revive myself, I scribbled down my thought in great haste.

“Biko!! Posting pictures of your beautiful self (filtered, stamped, sealed and delivered with the leafy head stuff app) and tagging it self-love.. is that really self-love? I fitn’t understand! Whether you do it to prove that bobo or babi heartbreaker that you have moved on or whatever it may be… Biko self-love is more of action than speech!!!!”

So much for that.

Last week, I asked Tomi; “Do you love being yourself?” Without hesitation he confidently replied; “Of course, I love myself!” I continued; “Oh! So why do you love yourself?” He kind of disappointed me by saying “because am handsome or am I not?

“You can be the most beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light and rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don’t know it, all of that doesn’t even matter. Every second that you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use to criticize yourself; is a second of your life wasted, is a moment of your life thrown away. It’s not like you have forever, so don’t waste any of your seconds, don’t throw even one of your moments away.”
― C. JoyBell C.

To know your worth, you have to know yourself. By knowing yourself, you appreciate yourself. By appreciating yourself, you love yourself.



Knowing that you are blessed with beautiful physical features is one thing and knowing what dwells within the beautiful physical features is another thing.

Sincere apology if the repetition of those words turned you off but if the use of that figure of speech will enable me explain Self-Love in a positive and better façon, then, let repetition flow!

Self-love creates a pathway to self-discovery. Self-love is knowing yourself, your weakness and strength. Self-love is identifying your emotions, wants, needs and thoughts. Self-love is knowing you are the best of yourself and you can make yourself a better you. Self-love is knowing your life purpose and working towards it. Self-love is not dwelling in your past mistake but learning from it and moving on to do things better. Self-love is working hard on your own part to live a fulfilled life. Self-love is living a healthy and worthy life. Self-love is adding value to yourself. Self-love is knowing that your needs weigh more than your wants. Self-love boosts every aspect of your life. Self love holds you in one piece when broken.

Self-love energises self-esteem, self-discovery and self-reliance.

Self-love doesn’t dismiss love for others, instead it creates an edge for a better relationship with others. It enables you to help others in ways that are within your capabilities without expecting the receiver to accept, praise and love you or return the favour. However, you helped because it was a choice you made out of your considerate nature.

Photo Credit: @stevenphotography_




Written by Umahi Uju Vicky
Talking about myself welcomes me into the world of confusion, I mean, how else can I say that I am a passionate volunteer, a flexible teacher, a life loving blogger and Umahi Obianujunwa Victoria!