Your heart may just be as broken as mine when you hear this; IT’S NOT ABOUT SHOES! But…

“The mind once enlightened cannot again become dark”. -Thomas Paine

Experience enlightens the mind. It has placed at my disposal the runtown rundown of life; Good, Sweet, Bad, Bitter-Sweet and Embarrassing. I repeat, Embarrassing! I have encountered embarrassing and EMMBBBAAAARRRRRAAAASSSSSINNNNG moments. Asides silly mistakes of musical blunder, I vividly recall my almost perfect diva street-walk.

In gossip mood, I walked Tee down to the bus-stop, it was easy to get a shuttle (this reminds me of our adjourned gossip). However, I had to return back alone. Then, it happened, like pack of wolves, these group of young men were seated by the street corner probably looking for young girls to whistle at, but I am the girl who gives an attitude to scare such off. Ha ha! As I majestically walked down the sloppy route to my destination, feeling like Gigi Hadid of my own world, I tripped and the next thing… I found myself on the stony ground. It was obvious they expected the fall. I still remember the resounding rhythm of their laughter which spelt E.V.I.L in Laugh Language. 

The experience produced a feeling of psychosocial pain but if I was in their shoes, would I have acted differently?

The Other Shoe!

Recently, I was blessed with a favourable situation in which I wore two different shoes.

Annie and I sat with our lovely friends, sharing our table with us was this young man who just beside him was his bae. It was a wedding, a grand one. Hence, there was a special menu. I observed that this man neither knows the bride nor the groom but he knows the best man. That qualified  him for all the special numbers (Moët, Hennessy, Almighty Asun etc.). He bounced on each as they come while we officially joined the on-lookers club. Heaven knows all I said about this man. To me, it was unfair!

Nevertheless, during our fun chat with the beautiful bride, our friend, she got to know that we only perceived the aroma of the special numbers, without hesitation, she ordered delicious dessert for us. Then, she took us to the burger stand and made another order there. As I stretched forth my hand to pick mine, I looked at the queue of beautiful people waiting on what I didn’t have to wait for. I felt bad, I knew at that point, I was just like the young man with bae. One of these people would had probably thought like I did earlier… It was unfair!

“Before you criticize a man, walk a mile in his shoes. That way, when you do criticize him, you’ll be a mile away and have his shoes.” -Steve Martin

This is maybe an awkward story to learn from but atleast understand the reason I started off with Thomas Paine’s quote. Experience lights up the mind!!!

Life is in phases. God has fashioned everybody to achieve certain feat at different times. Therefore, the success of another man shouldn’t be a discouragement but rather a propeller of your determination to achieve yours. Nobody deserves less! However, as you are steady on your lane, try not to judge the slow or fast movement of others. You might have mastered the perfect act of wearing your shoe that it hurts no more but “the other shoes” might just be tougher than they seem.

Written by Umahi Uju Vicky
Talking about myself welcomes me into the world of confusion, I mean, how else can I say that I am a passionate volunteer, a flexible teacher, a life loving blogger and Umahi Obianujunwa Victoria!